For the longest time, I believed I had simply gotten in the wrong line in Heaven.
How else could I explain the family I was born into — one plagued by alcoholism, abuse, neglect, and deep, soul-crushing dysfunction? I carried the shame like a second skin. I looked at others with normal, loving families and thought, God must’ve made a mistake with me.
But what if there were no mistakes?
What if you were sent into your family, your story, on purpose — not as a punishment, but as a divine assignment?
That question didn’t just shift my perspective. It saved my life.
And it’s the heartbeat behind my book, The Chain Breaker – It Stopped With Me.
It’s not just a memoir. It’s a map — for those who are ready to stop surviving their past and start reclaiming their future.
Breaking the Chains That Bound Us
In the pages of this book, I take you by the hand and walk you through the raw, unfiltered reality of growing up in a home where pain was louder than peace. I don’t sugarcoat it. The trauma was real. The wounds were deep. The ripple effects tried to steal my future.
But they didn’t win.
Because once I understood that I had been trusted — by a loving Heavenly Father — to be the one to stop the generational sickness of abuse and sin, everything changed.
I stopped asking, Why me?
And I started declaring, It stops with me.
How to Heal When the Hurt Runs Deep
Healing from trauma is not about pretending it didn’t happen. It’s about refusing to let it control what happens next.
Here are a few of the transformational methods I share in The Chain Breaker – It Stopped With Me that helped me — and can help you — move from wounded to whole:
1. Name the Lies, Then Tell the Truth
Most of us carry subconscious beliefs formed in childhood:
- I’m unlovable.
- I’m not safe.
- Nothing will ever change.
These are lies. And lies lose their power when we expose them.
Start by identifying the core lies you’ve believed about yourself — then replace them with truth.
Truth like: You were never alone. You are worthy. You are chosen. You are free.
2. Forgive — Not for Them, But for You
Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing the abuse. It means refusing to carry it with you one more day.
Forgiveness is your ticket to freedom. And you deserve to be free.
3. Reframe the Past Through the Eyes of Purpose
When I began to view my painful story through the lens of divine assignment — that God sent me into that family to be a Savior on Mt. Zion, to stop the cycle — I no longer felt like a victim.
I felt honored.
You, too, can rewrite the meaning of your past. Not by erasing it, but by redeeming it.
4. Choose Joy — On Purpose
Joy isn’t what comes after healing. It’s what fuels it.
Every time you laugh, play, rest, or worship, you are reclaiming territory that trauma tried to steal. Don’t let your past rob you of one more moment of joy.
You Are the Chain Breaker
You are not broken. You are being rebuilt.
You are not cursed. You are called.
You don’t have to carry the pain any longer — and your children don’t have to inherit it.
I didn’t allow my children to grow up in the same storm I was raised in. The cycle ended with me. And it can end with you, too.
If you’re ready to stop surviving and start living…
If you’re ready to find joy, forgiveness, and true freedom…
If you’ve always wondered if God had a bigger purpose for your pain…
Then The Chain Breaker – It Stopped With Me was written for you.
Get the Book That’s Setting People Free
You don’t have to walk this healing journey alone.
I invite you to read my story — not just once, but as often as you need — to remember that your past doesn’t get the final say. God does. And He says you are redeemed.
🕊️ Order your copy of The Chain Breaker – It Stopped With Me today
📖 Step into your healing.
🔥 Become the chain breaker your family has been waiting for.
Because you weren’t sent by accident.
You were sent on purpose.
And it stops with you.
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